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More travels.

Some thoughts on personal slaves...and picture thieves.

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Nov. 27th, 2009 at 1:34 PM

It's just over two weeks now until I head back to London. I'm leaving on the 13th. For those wishing to session with me before I leave I encourage you to book as soon as possible to avoid disappointment. My diary is filling up quickly.

I've seen some really fantastic new subs over the last few weeks. I've been absolutely spoilt with lots of wonderful cbt play. Yesterday I had a really hilarious and fun spanking session where I played the bratty niece getting revenge on her uncle who had taken her over his knee when she was a little younger. Ha! Teenagers have iphones and iphones = evidence :P By the end of the session uncle dear was quite keen to buy his "darling" niece the pony she wanted for xmas :D

Location:Home
Music:Trentemoller - Moan

Nov. 3rd, 2009 at 5:03 PM

Just a few quick housekeeping notes.

*I'm off to London again....but not for a while! 13th December through to 13th January.(Yes..I will be shopping for rubber ;))

*Same day sessions. I've had quite a few requests for same day sessions recently. I do not session same day with new clients. If you're known to me I may grant you a same day session provided you contact me between 9 and 10am on the day, ask me very, very nicely and I have time available.

*Body worship. I guess hope springs eternal here but no I do not allow intimate body worship in my sessions. What does this mean? Well if it's covered by a bikini then you won't be worshiping it. In this instance asking very, very nicely won't change my answer :)

*Private number calls. I do not accept calls from private numbers. If you wish to speak with me you will need to unblock your number.

*Texts. These can be a great way of contacting me to arrange a time for a session. However if you are not known to me I will need to speak with you to establish compatibility before a booking is made. I will not engage in lengthy text discussions regarding session content.

*Confirmations. Bookings need to be confirmed as instructed by me.

*Cancellations. If you are unable to attend the session you have booked please be courteous enough to cancel your booking.

Location:Home
Music:The Rapture - No sex for Ben

Oct. 26th, 2009 at 4:30 PM

I recently posted a profile on collarme.com...which has been an interesting experience to say the least. I initially joined CM so that I could message and report someone who had stolen some of my pictures. To the site's credit the offending profile was removed almost immediately. I'm leaving my profile there as a placeholder..and hopefully it will act as a deterrent to future picture thieves. Of course if you ever do see someone using my pics that isn't me I would be very grateful if you let me know! Not only is this type of stealing a problem for the Domme/artist in question, these types of fake profiles undermine the credibility of the online BDSM community and make things more difficult for those who are genuinely seeking to connect online.

CM aside I have been thinking lately about the topic of personal slaves. Most Dommes are contacted from time to time by potential personal slaves and I am no exception. At present I do not own a personal slave, nor am I actively seeking one.

Many slaves fantasise about the privilege of serving as a personal slave. Whilst it is a very common fantasy few potential personal slaves really understand what this type of relationship involves and even fewer posses the personal qualities, emotional intelligence and commitment required to serve successfully in this fashion.

Like so many BDSM related topics Dominant folk often have wildly differing views on personal slavery. Some are happy to appoint a personal slave after a short interview or trial period. Others share my view that a personal slave relationship is one that develops over time. I believe that trust and devotion are absolutely essential in Owner/personal slave relationships. Especially since, in so many cases, to be of practical use a personal slave is entrusted with a privileged level of access to the Owner's life and personal affairs. I am simply not prepared to grant the privilege of this type of access to a slave that has not proven his or herself to be absolutely trustworthy and loyal.

For Me service is the absolute crux of an Owner/personal slave relationship. Contrary to the opinion of so many, serving as a personal slave is not about free sessions or play. A personal slave should be devoted to service: increasing the ease, comfort and pleasure of the owner. From time to time there may be play or even in some cases sexual servitude however this is entirely at the owners discretion.

Time is also an important factor in this type of relationship. In many cases it is not essential that a personal shave be at the Owner's disposal 24/7, however it is important that the potential personal slave has a schedule that allows him/her to make a meaningful and practical contribution to the Owner's needs. In turn, owning a personal slave requires a huge commitment of time and attention from the Owner. Not only will the Owner expend a considerable amount of time and effort training the slave to meet their requirements the practicalities of personal servitude mean that the owner will be spending extended amounts of time in the slave's company. Shared interests,humour and values certainly ad interest and ease to this type of relationship.

I am always quite clear when posting profiles on online BDSM sites that my profile is a professional one. I have also had slaves contact me about personal servitude through my professional website. I do not think this is in any way appropriate, especially since this type of contact most often comes from individuals that I have never met and who seem to know next to nothing about me.This type of contact in itself demonstrates that the potential slave and I have vastly different views on what this type of relationship entails. In addition to this I have absolutely NO interest in owning a "worthless" slave. A slave who would indiscriminately offer this type of servitude to a person they have never met certainly demonstrates to me that they consider themselves and their service as worthless. Whilst an excess pride is not desirable in a slave, quality slaves are aware that their service and person is of value to an Owner.

Location:Home

November 2009